Today we have a guest post in our Girl Talk section of this blog and I’m super excited about it! Our guest writer today is Stephanie Murray, which a few of you might know from her many blogs!
Stephanie is in school at SCAD and loving every minute of it hoping to go into writing with a minor in fashion photography for the time being, but production design is also something that she is looking into at the moment. I will leave all of her blog information and social media information at the end of the post!
I had the pleasure of going to school with Stephanie and hearing her thoughts on a lot of things, and that was definitely fun. I love listening to her talk and reading her posts because she is so blunt, honest, and up front with her opinion on any issues or topics she’s presented with! In this Girl Talk post, as the title indicates, Stephanie will be talking about “Hoe Culture” and what that even is/means to girls in this generation. I read Stephanie’s blog post entitled ” We Did ‘IT’ “ that focusses on sex and losing her virginity, and when I read it I immediately knew I wanted her to write a post like that for all my girl readers. This isn’t to say I agree with everything she feels on the subjects, but that her writing and opinion on the subject is a different view than what is normally found in the south, and it was a refreshing idea to read!
I’d like to thank Stephanie so much for writing this post for me and my readers and giving them a little bit of a different perspective on “Hoe Culture”
So without me blabbing anymore lets get into the thoughts Stephanie has on “HOE CULTURE”
What Makes One a Hoe?
By: Stephanie Murray
We can all thank Cardi B and the influx of “Instagram Baddies” for the rise of “hoe culture.” What exactly is “hoe culture” you might ask. “Hoe culture” is a term coined by yours truly (circa summer ‘15) which allows women to do what men have been doing for years without scrutiny. And that is being whoever they want to be physically, emotionally, mentally, and sexually. Yes, women CAN be sexual goddesses, they CAN prowl the dating apps and pounce on any dick (or pun) they please, they WILL do whomever, whenever and however they please. Women can also choose not to have sex, which is totally okay and probably the safest route.
Why are women owning this derogatory term that dirty catcallers have used for years? Well, its about damn time we take our rights back from men. (That does not mean we literally take our power from their loins.) We do this in a diplomatic and somewhat civilized manner.
For me, I recently “lost my virginity” the flower that every woman waits to give to lifelong lover and soul mate. BULLSHIT, (Some people believe this and I guess that’s okay, to each is their own.) I had vaginal penetration for the first time with a guy I met on a dating app (Bumble, the feminist version of Tinder.) two hours prior to the deed. I’ve fooled around with guys prior to this one, and I felt more respected and valued with a complete stranger than someone who “loved” me.
Having vaginal penetration for the first time wasn’t this glorious moment of liberation and hoe-freedom, it just was. For some sex is the moment when they feel they can finally let all their stir crazy sexual demons out to roam. For some hoe season doesn’t arrive until days, months, and even years after their “first time.”
Virginity isn’t that big of a deal. I grew up in a small conservative southern town where if you had sex before marriage your life was practically over. The guy I had sex with didn’t know I was a virgin and didn’t care. He only asked if there was hymen blood because he was afraid he hurt me. (There was blood, but I’m sure this was because I was close to my period and he went deep.) I am no longer (I never really was) extremely religious and I don’t believe in the virgin purity hype. I just know I won’t be selected as a sacrificial offering anytime soon.
All in all, virginity doesn’t put a price on someone’s punani, it’s still a fully functioning vag okay. In my personal opinion virginity is overrated and another double standard of society. No one plays penis police and checks men for signs of purity. (See how absurd that sounds.) If someone puts your value in what’s between your legs, I guess we’d be all screwed.
Since joining my own hoe liberation movement, I can say, I truly do not give one single fuck about what men think. I live for intimidating them. (Seeing the fear in their eyes is such a turn on.) I eat their compliments (and dicks) with a smile on my face. Becoming a hoe is by far the best decision of my life. (Other than investing in a Becca highlighter, it works wonders!!!) Not only have I granted myself the sexual freedom I crave, I can also over throw the patriarchy with reverse psychology.
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